Good Today

Hello Everyone:

Now that the initial mourning is over, it’s time to slowly start living my life. The first step was cleaning out mum’s room. Sis, the BIL, and I got started on it today and it was pretty painless. Also painless was the money discussion. I decided to take the lead on that subject instead of someone else. This way I take control of the matter and getting my needs met drives the discussion. That was painless too, happy to report. For far too long the money discussion was always a source of tension, especially when I was with the evil ex.  Eventually I realized that I needed to stand up for myself and had a right to have my needs met. I also realized that I needed to have the right information. This is what’s happening now. Also, being open, having someone pay attention and give me constructive feedback helps. All true so far. What came out of this round was a list of tasks that I need to do. I’ll do it and it’ll all work out to my benefit. Anyway, I’m enjoying  the quiet in the apartment. A couple of mum’s friends and my “park mum” checked in to see how I was getting on. I’m good today but I still need to recuperate from the whole caregiver experience. Right now, I need to get ready for bed.