One more big Jewish holiday to go, then nothing until Chanukah. This a relief because I can't stand all the fuss and the over emphamsis on the correct performance of observance. Mom was sharing with me this morning something she read in one of the local Jewish community newspapers about a woman who sits down and writes out a personal inventory on the morning of Yom Kippur. I think she intended to use it as an example of 'what not to do,' however, I pointed out to her that everyone has their way of observing the holiday. She replied that she doesn't judge but I find that when someone says they don't judge, the opposite is true. Personally speaking, I'm just over the whole holiday thing. It's like, why bother? These Jewish holidays are mostly family oriented and I usually feel out of place. I feel like the pathetic singleton that gets pity invitations. I probably should go because I never know who I'll meet, no that I'm really looking too hard. Most of the single men their are too young or not interested. The other women usually ignore me, preferring to talk about the children. Mostly, I can't stand all the fuss before and during the holiday. I think that does more to detract from the enjoyment and full participation then anything else. I mean how can you enjoy time with friends and family when you're too preoccupied with how you're performing a ritual or how much food you prepared? Such a waste of brain space. I prefer a more low-key approach-keep it simple. You don't need to be so worried about how much wine is in the cup for the blessing or if you prepared enough food, just do and the rest will take care of itself. So, as far as I'm concerned, spare me the fuss and the chaos; just tell me when and where to show up.
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