Race and Dating

Hello Everyone:

Yesterday, new guy and pretty blogger went out on another date.  One of the things we talked about was the race.  I previously mentioned that new is black and I'm not.  Mom has already made her feelings quite clear on the subject- definitely opposed to the relationship.  I have a feeling that if I said he was Jewish, she wouldn't be that opposed.  Personally, it doesn't bother me one or the other.  I think the reason it isn't a problem for me is that since middle school, I've been around people from different backgrounds, after the initial shock wore off, it was no big deal.  People are people and there certain things you have to accept.  One thing is skin color.  The Man in White made people in different sizes and colors for a reason.  What attracts people to one another is probably one of the biggest unsolved mysteries.  I like to think we live in age where two people from different backgrounds can go out on a date and look like a freak show.  Unfortunately this is still not the case evidenced by the fact that we were at a coffee place yesterday and a total stranger came up to us and gave us some extremely lame complement.  I'm not so naive as to think that his family would be more accepting of me.  I'm sure that if I went back to the UK with him and met his family, they'd take one look at me and say, "You went to America and came with her?! Really?!"  I know that there are black women who get upset when they a "brother" dating a Caucasian, Asian, or Latina girl.  I also know that there are Jewish men and women how get upset when they other Jews dating "out".  As I explained to mom, the problem that there are no age appropriate available Jewish men, or at least the pickings are very slim.  The ones that are a available are very superficial and have very unrealistic expectations.  So it seems that we have a conundrum.  If there was someone out there that was willing to commit to a real relationship, who isn't superficial, or have unreal expectations, I'd be willing to give him a chance. Until then, I have to find it when and where I can.