Challenging

Hello Everyone: Yesterday, I had a splendid time at lunch. One of the reasons I enjoyed lunch so much was that it wasn't at Sis's house. It was at someone else's house for the first time in, like, over a year. Even better, Sis and BIL weren't there. Sis declined, citing something about observing religious mourning laws. No matter, I had a better time without them. I wasn't relegated to the foot of the table, I sat closer to the head. People found me an interesting and wanted to get to know me. Mostly, it was great being around other adults and being treated like an adult, not someone's ward. What more could I ask for? In the evening, I got into a text conversation with an old friend. It was good to hear from him and we left it as a possible get together in the future. Anyway, I'm going over to Sis's house tomorrow for a family thing. I would really like to have a nice time unless the BIL starts asking me if I've reconsidered moving, still a no at this time and how my permenant job search is going. I already decided on a new rule, no communications unless it has to do with mum, a reminder about an upcoming meal, or an emergency. No more random communications containing job opportunities or apartment rentals. I really have to set my boundaries with them. I'm fairly confident that they'll respect my boundaries. Another thing I need to be firm about is Sis's holier than thou attitude. She's always had this sense of superiority and, I think, it made her a target of high school bullies. I don't expect her to change, that won't happen, but can change my approach with her by challenging her sense of superiority. She hates it and I know it. Anyway depending on how things go tomorrow, I'll decide if I want to continue spending time with them or not.