Life Skills

 

Hello Everyone:

I had a really nice day.  I did everything I needed to do and have a great dinner planned for myself.  You know I so love proving mum wrong each and every day.  Her dire predictions of my doom have yet to come true and if I have anything to say about it, it will not happen.  Since her passing, her friends and sis seemed surprised that I have life skills.  One of mum's friends gets overly excited when I when share what I've been up to.  It's like, why are you getting so excited over a phone call or an email?  Whatever.  It's not like I'm expecting a cookie for doing the things that ordinary people do to make things happen.  Anyway, the whole thing is so silly.  Some of it is mum making herself appear too important in my life.  She always thought that without her, I can't survive.  Now don't get me wrong, I am grateful for everything she's done for me.  There were moments where, if it wasn't for her, I don't what I would do.  However over the past year or so, I've really stepped up my life skills.  Life skills are like anything, the more you practice them, the better you get.  I can definitely feed, cloth, and bathe myself.  Slowly I'm getting better at the everything else.  I don't expect perfect, that's unrealistic, but good is good enough.  The one skill I do have to finally master to some degree, is money management.  Historically, I've never had good experiences around money matters.  They always end in some big emotional argument.  Since mum's passing, I've had a couple of money talks with the BIL (he's in charge of her affairs) and they were easy.  I simply stated what I want to do and no one said anything negative.  No screaming, no tears, just me clearly telling him what my needs are and what I want to do.  The next step is finally learning to balance a check book.  Thank goodness for online banking.  I'm grown woman and grown women take charge of their lives.