Not Making Plans

Hello Everyone:

No flirting with the Brit BF today. I was good. Instead I flirted, via text, with the Sometime BF.  I'm still not quite sure why he wants to commit to a relationship after so many years of avoiding it. The optimist side of me says he's changed. The pessimist says people don't change. I think I have an issue with the suddenness of it. Out of the blue he gets in touch, declaring his love for me. Apparently, an attack of IBS did that to him.  It's hard to tell if he's serious or just having fun. He seems serious but I'm looking for the cracks. Maybe that's the problem, I'm too busy looking for cracks in the facade that I'm missing the real story. The thing is is don't know what the real story is. At least the Brit BF was very upfront about his goal for the relationship. With the Sometime BF, I don't quite know what he's relationship goal is. I still think the Sometime BF will disappear in a month or two. I'll be quite surprised if he sticks around longer than that. In the interim, I'm not making any short or long term plans with him beyond what we have in motion right now. I'm making any plans to move in with him or something like that. For now, I'm happy to let things remain as is. I haven't decided if I should be on the look out for better just to hedge my bets. I'm not very good at playing around. What I am good is getting some sleep.