Moderation

Hello Everyone:

I am sleepy today.  I must not have gotten enough sleep last night because I was ready for a nap before noon.  Somehow I managed to find enough energy to get through the day.  In a little while I'll have dinner and crash for the night.  The afternoon ice cream fix gave me some temporary energy.  Anyway, I'm supposed to meet the Sometime BF's family (at least some of them) this weekend.  He already told me that one of his brothers is really looking forward to meeting and chatting with me. I'll even autograph his tablet device if he asks.  Apparently he loves my blog.  Hey, I just know what I know and nothing more.  The Sometime BF has been really gushing about me.  He's like that, over does it.  He really needs to tone things down.  I think this is a problem.  He has a generous nature toward those he loves.  This is great but he needs to understand that some people can take advantage of it.  Over the past weekend, he offered to let me drive his car.  I told him that I didn't feel comfortable doing that, despite his insistence that it would okay.  I finally told him that I could try it in a large empty parking lot.  Another person would've immediately jumped all over it.  This is something we need to work on.  I'm not his therapist, I just want to reinforce the fact that he often gives more than he gets back.  It's a process.  I think I drove home that point recently when we were having a late night chat about past relationships and he admitted that he used to be intimate with random women to medicate his insecurities.  I told him that it wasn't intimacy, it was just sex.  He was giving more than he was getting back.  That hit a nerve along with the fact that he was medicating his insecurities with sex.  Hopefully he and his therapist spent quality time talking about that.  It's not just intimacy-perceived or real-it's other things as well.  I know he wants to spoil me and I may just let him do it but temper it.  I've developed a built in moderation alarm that keeps me from giving into my own excesses.  The best way I can describe it is a sense of discipline.  It's not always perfect but it works.  Maybe some of it will rub off on the Sometime BF.