Routine

Hello Everyone:

For the about the first time, in a while, my week got of to a good start.  The carer came early enough so I was able to go running and get some laundry done while she looked after mum.  I was even able to write without having to stop every ten minutes for something or another.  I feel bad for the carer because she has to work every day this week while she looks for someone to come on her days off.  The carer has a family and she should spend time with them.  Another person I'm grateful for is the nurse who comes here everyday to check on the sores on mum's leg and back.  He, it's a he, is doing a wonderful job because her legs look much better.  I do appreciate their dedication to the job.  I think mum has grown fond.  I'm happy things are working out and we have a chance to establish a routine.  I think that have a care routine is important for mum so she can get the type of care she deserves.  Sis and BIL had a plan to move mum into a spare room in their house but in retrospect, the timing and logistics of it wasn't good.  About a few months ago, I told sis that I wanted her to take mum off my hands.  This was during a period where I was barely managing to keep everything under control without any help.  I was desperate and needed help.  Now I have the help.  However, Sis thought I meant I wanted mum out off my hands for good and devised a scheme to move her into a spare room.  This made me angry because it felt like she was, once again, acting on impulse and taking it upon herself to make all the decisions.  When I told her I needed a break, I didn't mean permanently, more like for a short period of time so I can get myself together.  I still really need that break but the urgency is less.  Also, her idea of helping me look for a less expensive place to live on my own lacks consideration.  Sis and BIL have no concept about what it costs to rent in my hometown, spoiler: a glorified walk-in closet can run into the four-digit range.  Also, I get the impression that they don't have any idea of how important it is for mum to develop a consistent care routine.  Moving her would upend it.  Short story, the idea is on hold for a while.  Good