He's Back

Hello Everyone:

Guess who messaged me today?  The Sometime BF. He told me he was going to be in my area and wanted to get together.  Fine, I haven't seen in a while and can catch up over dinner. I hope he doesn't think he's getting anything else out if it. Nor do I have any intention of making dinner. After the way he disappeared and decided to hide out for good in suburbia, all he'll get is pleasant conversation. I know at one point I thought about marriage but I reconsidered.  I really just couldn't see myself living in his mother's house, in the middle of nowhere, with him. I need stability in a relationship. I didn't want to mention it to mum but the Brit BF is really the best and most obvious choice for me. I know objects to the fact he's black and non-Jewish but I think she doesn't see what I see. He's here for the relationship. With him, I get what I truly want from a relationship: a kind, loving, patient man who will provide me with the stability I so desparately want.  I just don't get that from the Sometime BF. I like him but really that's it.  I thought we could create a life with each other but after thinking it over, the answer is no. So we'll have dinner, catch up and go our separate ways.