Being True To Feelings

Hello Everyone:

Something has been bothering me since I got off the phone with the Brit BF yesterday.  As I've said in the past, he' s a man with a plan.  He has his whole life mapped out for the next few years.  It's nice that he wants to include me in it.  What's bothering me is the feeling that I'm expected to smile and go along with his plans for me.  Yesterday, for example, during our phone conversation he mentioned something about my coming to the UK to do post-graduate work at the University of Manchester and moving in with him.  I'm not opposed to to moving overseas for a specific purpose but I want to be the one to make that decision and implement a plan, not someone else.  I had to tell him that I wasn't sure if my current interests would be best served in the academic or professional realm.  Also, I shared with him about a job opening that would be more suited to me.  I could be mis-interpreting his comments but it feels like I'm being left out of the process.  I have to tell how I feel.  I think after everything that's transpired between us, I can be completely honest about my feelings.  I don't think he's the type that'll shut me down so I can say whatever I need to say.  I would like some clarity on the matter.  Essentially, I need to tell him that if he's making life plans and wants to include me, then he has to include me in the process.  This means taking into account that I may have other things in mind for a professional life.  I don't think that sounds unreasonable.  If he has a problem with that then that's on him.  I can only be true about how I feel.  I might even be surprised (in a good way) at his response.  The other thing I want to know is does he have concrete plans to come back.  I get that he wants to get a development deal from some studio but how much longer is planning to stay in the UK.  Even if he comes back for a visit in the spring or summer, for a couple of weeks, that would still work.  As I said yesterday, if I'm going there and he's coming here, were eventually going to meet in the middle.  It doesn't do us any good to be traveling in opposite directions, we need to travel the same path.  Part of the travel plans include making decisions about the future together.  Not one person calling all the shots and expecting the other to go along with it.  Some of it is who he is and I have to accept that.  I can only make my thoughts heard and let the rest go.