Yes, I do love my mom

Bienvenue France. I see I've added you to my audience. I hope you enjoy reading my posts. To everyone, as always, I welcome your feedback. If you want to follow me, I'm on Facebook (http://www.facebook.com/lenorelowen) or twitter (http://www.twitter.com/glamavon.) I'd love to hear from you. So, I realized yesterday after I posted my latest "I hate my mother" rant that I've rather hard on her. I actually don't mean to be but you have to realize that it's extremely difficult dealing with an aging parent solo. Yes, I do have a sister who lives nearby but heaven forbid that she, her husband, or their older children be bothered to come over once a week to help out. By help out I'm referring to take mom to do some errands or offer to do them for her or do some light housekeeping. Of course, far be it from mom to ask either one because, after all, I'm always readily available and it's not like I have anything to do all day except play on the computer. Well, obviously I've found a way to occupy my time during my current state of unemployment. The truth is I really do love my mother and hope she lives along long life. It's just that I can't live with her anymore. To make matters worse, until I find a steady job and start earning some real money, I can't move out. In the meantime I have to make do. I hate the having to repeat everything I say, the game playing she engages in, the constant need to pick an argument, having to be on the defensive all the time, or having to listen to the constant complaining and whiny all day. I try reading or going online at the table, which, yes, is rather rude but I simply don't want to engage. I guess I still have to work on learning to detach with love. If being rude and aloof is the way, then o.k. However, I really don't think that's the answer. So what is the answer? How do I tell someone "I love you dearly but I can't stand living with you" in a nice way. I hate having to run out all the time just to get some peace and quiet so I can do my thing and not be disturbed or be suckered into something I don't want to do. Yes, I really and genuinely do love my mom and don't mean to be so hard on her.