Mum Needs To Step Up

Hello Everyone:

I had a pretty good weekend. At least mum didn’t pester me too much. I told mum, in no uncertain terms, that she has to start giving the caregiver more to do. I told her that my big my main reluctance to helping her out more is that I feel like I have to do the caregiver’s job. The caregiver is supposed to do more than just help mum shower and get dressed in the morning, she should also tidy up a little, help her in the kitchen, take her to appointments and the market. The caregiver does help out with the cooking but everything else falls to me. That shouldn’t be the case. Mum is her employer, not me. I am not the caregiver’s assistant. It’s not my job to give the caregiver daily tasks. Mum needs to this for herself. I think she’s too accommodating to the caregiver. Mum acts like the caregiver is doing her the favor of paying attention to her. The caregiver is there to help mum out. The caregiver needs to accommodate mum, not the other way around. I shouldn’t pick up the slack.  My thinking is I need to have limited interaction with the caregiver. In fact, mum needs to start doing things for herself. She’s better and more active so she do more things for herself like interact with the caregiver.  It’s been driving me up a tree seeing sit there doing nothing while I’m doing parts of the caregiver’s job. Hopefully the coming week’ll be better.