Be Happy

Hello Everyone:

For those celebrating Chanukah, Happy Chanukah and Happy Thanksgiving Day.  Hopefully those of you on the East Coast of the United States haven't gotten stranded on your way to be with loved ones. If you are stuck, stay safe, warm, and dry.

Today has been a pretty mellow day.  I think it's because of the pending holiday and everyone is trying to get out of town, fast.  I'm at the library with my little stack of DVDs and a book to keep me occupied over the next few days.  That and blogging away.  I've been thinking about the future and what that holds.  It's hard to know what lies ahead and there are so many roads to take.  Just trying to pick one direction can be difficult at time because each road has certain appeals to it.  It's like being in a candy store, so many good choices but I can only pick one thing.  It's sometimes hard to know what direction to take but certain things seem clear.  The clearest thing is to go with my strengths.  Go with things that please me.  The latter point has been a recurring theme with me, things that please me.  Whether it's something insignificant or major, it has to make me happy.  This is true of relationships as well.  Being with people that make me happy is important.  Why is this important?  It's important because I've always maintained that while relationships require work, it shouldn't be a burden.  When you feel like your relationship is a chore, then it's time to get out or at least minimize your involvement. Relationships should not be forced, they should be free flowing and natural.  This true in any relationship situation-work or personal.  This can be extended to the material things in my life.  The objects I choose to fill out my identity should be a reflection of my preferences.  It sounds like I'm putting great weight on objects but think about it for a second, what do the material objects in your life say about you?  Do they make you happy?  I'm all for trying new things but even new things need to bring me joy.  Sometimes you need to do things to make another person happy even if it's something distasteful to you.  You do this because you care about that person and want them to be happy in that moment.  You want to show them you love them and care deeply for them.  That's a beautiful thing