First of all, I would like to remind my American audience that tomorrow is Memorial Day. It's the day we honor service men and women who gave their lives for this nation. Regardless of what your views on the military are, you need to pause remember that withouth someone fighting for this country, you wouldn't have the freedom to speak your mind.
Now on to the bf. I finally got in touch with him Thursday evening. First, he had to replace his phone, o.k. Second, he and his family are having areally hard time dealing with his father's passing. This past week, the bf's brother came down from the San Francisco Bay Area and proceeded to clean out his father's pocessions. Of course the bother and bf kept momentos but the rest went to charity. The bf's mom kind of lost it. After all, they were married for sixty-three years and you don't just dispose of the things just like at. They're also dealing with all the mundane things that follow a person's death. On top of that the bf is angry at his higher power for taking his father. I tried to be as supportive as I could but it just felt like I was repeating cliches and the usual platitudes. What do you tell someone who just lost someone they were very close to, who was ill for so long? I remember when my dad passed away, everyone said, "it's all for the best" and "he's in a better place." I hate that. I hate all the cliche crap that comes out people's mouths in tragic times. I suppose that someone's attempt to be a comfort to the grieving person. Still, it sucks. When it comes out of my mouth, it really sucks to high hell and I want to beat myself for resorting to the cliches. I shouldn't be so hard on myself for not being more original. Sometimes the cliches and the usual platitudes are the only thing to say.
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