Need Out

Hello Everyone:

Sorry about yesterday.  Once again I had to go with mum to an appointment which turned out to be much adieu about nothing.  It wouldn't have been so bad except for the fact that we had to wait what seemed like forever for the ride there and back.  The cold damp weather just made it worse.  Once again, the day ended in me trying and failing to explain to mum that I feel like I'm doing an unfair amount of the work and everyone else gets a free pass.  My real concern is what would happen if I got offered the planning job I want.  I know the chance of that happening is about 50-50 either way but I have a right to be worried.  My concern stems from the fact that I keep hearing from mum that she's working on getting someone to help her out but I don't see any movement one way or the other.  She may be in process of getting someone but I haven't heard or seen any update.  What really galls me is mum's regular visitors just blow in and out have not even offered to help make arrangements for help or rides to appointments or anywhere else.  So far, only one person asked if there was anything she could do to help.  At last, the very words I want to hear.  Now let's see what materializes.  I don't have any expectations.  Another thing that upsets me is Sis's attitude.  She barely lifts a finger to help out, unless it fits into her schedule.  The thing is the BIL, niece, and nephews are thankfully all in good health.  The niece lives in another country, with her boy-husband and two babies; the oldest nephew just eats, sleeps, and showers at home; the youngest nephew just, well, lives in his own bubble.  In essence, no one is terminally ill, chronically debilitated, or an infant or toddler that require 24-hour care.  Both Sis and the BIL are at a point in their working lives where they've earned some good will from their supervisors and colleagues that allows them some flexibility in their schedules so that they can go with mum to her appointments.  They can cut back on their social lives and offer to take mum out on a weekly basis.  In all fairness, the oldest nephew and BIL do make some effort but I wish they would do more.  Mum is also part of the problem especially when she hands me crap like I should be grateful that I can help her, I should learn to be more flexible, or do more.  What a stinking pile of rubbish.  I've genuinely had it with the whole thing and I need out.