We'll See

Hello Everyone:

A long weekend is coming to a close and back to same old, same old tomorrow. On Friday, during dinner, I noticed a strange thing. I hadn't texted the Sometime BF in two days.  No reason, no plea for attention. I just didn't feel like texting anything. I'm done being super annoyed with him about the non-stop chatter and the lack of relationship goals. Okay, I'm still frustrated about that last one. Only thing is now if I say anything to him about it, I'll come off like I'm kicking him when he's down. What changed?  His mum received a terminal diagnosis this week. For the past few years, she's had some extremely serious health issues, including cancer. She's surgery, treatment, and seemed to be in remission. This past week she complained of back and abdominal pain. Her doctor told her that the illness was back and it spread to some her organs. At most she has several months. She can take treatment and have drugs to make her more comfortable but essentially, that's it. The Sometime BF and his brothers are understandably gutted. She's in good spirits and everyone is trying to stay positive around her but the Sometime BF is having a particularly hard time with it because his close to her. The only thing I can do is be the supportive girlfriend but that part is tempered with the knowledge that he'll disappear on me again. Hence, a semi-reason for radio silence. So, telling that we need to be more proactive about moving the relationship forward would not go over to well right now. Here's a kind of self-serving thought, maybe he'll realize time is short or his mum will have a long talk with him and he'll take the intiative. Quite truthfully, I wish he would because I hate being the one to dictate things. I don't mind deciding things like where to go out but for big things like relationship issues, that has to be a mutual decision. Right now, his head is elsewhere so I need to back off a little. As far as his disappearing act, he said he's here to stay so we'll see what happens next.