Old Man

Hello Everyone:

Over dinner, Friday evening, I finally admitted to mum that I'm losing patience with the Sometime BF. All he wants to do is come over, eat my food, have sex, occasionally make himself useful, and leave.  That's it. When I suggest going out on a proper date, he had the nerve to say "I thought we were past the dating stage."  Seriously?!  Past the dating stage straight into the "old married couple stage."  Give me a freaking break. He's not a boyfriend, he's an old man. If I want to date an old man, I'll go to a singles event. Please, I'm better than that. What frustrates me the most is that he doesn't to set any goals to work towards. He just likes the way things are. What they are is stagnant. I've made it perfectly clear that I wanted him to be fully present in the relationship and we have goals. He gives me this whole big speech about how he's ready for a committed relationship, which as it turns out, is just a load of bollocks. I seriously thought about emailing the Brit BF to complain. I didn't do that. Even though we're friends, I think it would be silly to complain about the guy I'm supposed to be seeing to the guy I used to see. I think I finally how the Brit BF used feel. I don't want to give up on the Sometime BF but if this continues, I may have to cut him loose. Since we've known each other for a long time, I feel I can be real with him.  Mum told me that she thinks he's afraid of change. He has anxiety issues. Fine, let him deal with it in therapy. I'm not his therapist.  Seriously