Relationship Work

Hello Everyone:

The Sometime BF made his visit and it was okay as far as visits are concerned. I’ve come to the conclusion that instead of letting him go, it would be worth my time and effort to educate him on what it means to have a real relationship. Not that I’m any expert myself but I do have some experience. I made this decision based on our deep meaningful talks about the subject. What I realize is that he barely has a clue about the kind of work a real relationship requires. I think he’s teachable. This may be a better approach than just letting him go for good. It’s certainly more constructive than taking the easy way out. It would also demonstrate that this is how you work the relationship. You challenge each to be better everyday. I think part of the problem is that we don’t see each every day and he has a lot on his plate. So I have to go slow with him. He has a great example in his parents.  They were married until his father passed away. He is right about the fact that couples really don’t make an effort with their relationships anymore. One argument and it’s good bye. I don’t believe in that. I think a couple should make every effort to deal with issues. Separation should be a last resort or in cases of abuse. I think we can do this but he has to step it up. I have confidence in him.