Move Forward

Hello Everyone:

Sorry about not posting yesterday but the Sometime BF made a mid-week appearance. We had a lovely time at dinner and then went back to my place. In between all that, the Brit BF and were messaging each other about his short movie and a recent picture he posted on Facebook. It's nice that we stay in touch with each other. I do miss his company. Anyway, I'm feeling that this relationship is stalling out.  I don't feel like we have any clear goals to achieve. That bothers me for the first time. In relationships before the Brit BF, it just seemed that we were having a good time. The Brit BF really got me thinking about setting goals. Specifically, setting relationship goals. What do we want out of the relationship. I know I want marriage but I get the feeling that the Sometime BF needs a little more  work on it. Part of the problem is that he lets his work issues get in the way of moving forward. I'm happy be supportive but I can't deal with his worrying himself sick over work. Take last weekend for example. The reason why he had to cancel at the last minute was a stress-related flare up of Irritable Bowl Syndrome. Apparently he's letting work issues get him, it's got him worried about the future, and so on. I understand that there are people and situations that make work life miserable but you can't always let get to you. At some point you have really focus on your task. Also he's not happy with his schedule. It's inconsistent so it makes it hard to really plan anything. I would love to visit him again and spend more time. I guess I just want us to have something we both work towards, not just have fun. At least with the Brit BF there was a sense of forward movement. Here, I feel like we've reached a comfortable place and he doesn't want to move from it. I'll to talk to him.