More on mom

When it comes to the grandkids, mom is super protective. Heaven forbid anyone should say something good or bad. My little nephew is in the other room watching a DVD. I asked mom why he's here today and she answered in a hostile and evasive manner, as usual. This woman historically cannot answer a simple yes/no question without a hostile or defensive edge. Of course, when it comes to the grandkids, they are high priority. I so much as look them and mom swoops in. If anything, I feel like mom is trying to alienate me from everyone. I feel isolated from everyone. Even, sitting down to dinner can feel very lonely. I think what I need to do is find more activities outside the house so I can connect to people with similar interests. This person does not understand the contemporary job market. According to dear mother the reason I don't have a job is that I haven't simply marched into any office or retail outlet and demanded a job. Really? Is that how it works? Well of course that's all anyone has to do to in order to get a job, simply march into an office and demand that human resources hire them. Never mind if you have the experience and training. If you want to work in a law office as lawyer then march on in. Who cares if you only have a high education, you want to be a lawyer and that's all that counts. Well apparently what dear mom hasn't realized is that times have changed dramatically and finding suitable employment is a lot harder. Yes, the economy is slowly picking up and who knows what'll happen in the near and far future but in the mean time not only do I need a job, I want a job and being judged and criticized does not help my self esteem or further my goal. If anything, being constantly judged and criticized leaves me feeling defeated. I've been looking since May and so far there have been few possibilities and a couple of interviews but otherwise nothing. What is wrong? Then there is the game playing. My mom cannot simply be straight forward. Instead she has to act in a manipulative fashion. If I say anything then I'm the one with the problem and imagining things. What I need is to find appropriate employment and move out.